Larry Gould, author of “Great Retirement. Great Sex.”
I was truly flattered to be asked by 60isthenew50.com to write a blog for their website.
Firstly, why am I qualified to write a blog? Well, possibly it’s because I have written a book entitled “Great Retirement. Great Sex”. Again, why am I qualified to write such a book?
I do have a doctorate, but it’s nothing to do with the subject, in business administration, and erectile dysfunction is not covered in that syllabus. But to cut a long story short, I sold my main business in 1995 and at the tender age of 43 took my family and my dosh off for a two year programme working for a charity in Israel. I might have been in the money that day on 12th November 1995 but it felt like the worst day of my life. I made the decision that I was not going to be beaten by the loss of status and days full of interesting challenges, so I took a post working for a charity in Israel helping immigrants from the former Soviet Union and Ethiopia. It was a great experience, but long term working in that environment was not for me.
A couple of years later I was invited by KPMG, one of the world’s largest Accountancy companies, to a conference. It was a long drawn out affair mainly discussing developments in tax. However, they asked me to talk about the emotional effects of selling your business/retirement. This made me focus on the emotional having the freedom of not working. So with a room full of 150 mainly mature, grey-suited mainly men all looking very serious and stern I presented my talk entitled “How to sell your business and still have a sex life”.
No one fainted, no one threw me out, so I realised I had survived the ordeal to thunderous applause. Possibly it was the light relief from talking about tax that did it. This reaction confirmed that I wasn’t the only one with sex on my brain. Society is keen to assume that one’s sex life fizzles out at a certain age but thankfully this is nonsense As you will see over the months ahead that a great sex life is founded on intimacy rather than just intercourse and it represents an intrinsic aspect of your personal wellbeing. I have had a most amazing experience with my small team of researchers, meeting people in their 70’s, 80’s and even 90’s who are having a fulfilling sex life. I’ve found them so inspiring, so writing the book for me was the greatest therapy and I’m afraid you’re all going to have to wait a little while to hear more about it. Have a good one.